Don't ever rely on Promises...here's why

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I can't lie, This morning, someone made me a promise.

Not just any promise, but one that meant something big to me something I held onto, something I was genuinely counting on. And all day, I carried that promise in my chest like a quiet fire. I trusted their words. I told myself, “Finally, this time something will actually come through.”

But when evening came, I called them to follow up.

And the reply I got was casual, almost careless:
“I’ll call you later.”

Just four words. But those four words felt like a cold bucket of water poured on the fire I’d been holding.

And that was the moment it hit me again, a truth I’ve been learning slowly but painfully: people don’t always mean what they say.

When Words Are Just Words

The thing about promises is that they sound beautiful when spoken. They carry hope, they create expectation, and sometimes, they even shape the way we plan our day or our future.

But here’s the harsh reality: for the one who makes the promise, it’s often just words. Easy to say, easy to forget. For the one who receives the promise, though, it can mean everything.

It becomes a seed of hope, something you water with trust. And when that seed dies before it ever grows, the disappointment feels heavier than the promise itself.

Most people don’t realize this. They don’t see how much weight their words carry. They don’t see how someone else’s day, mood, or even future might be tied to that single “yes, I’ll do it.”

Why Do People Make Promises They Can’t Keep?

It’s easy to assume that people break promises because they’re cruel or heartless. But that’s not always the case. Most of the time, the reason is simpler:

They want to please you in the moment. Saying “yes” feels easier than saying “no.”

They overestimate themselves. They believe they can deliver, but life gets in the way.

They don’t value the promise as much as you do. To them, it’s casual. To you, it’s everything.

They forget. Not because you don’t matter, but because their priorities lie elsewhere.

And that’s the painful truth most promises are not broken out of malice, but out of carelessness. Yet the result is the same: disappointment.

The Emotional Weight of Broken Promises

If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a broken promise, you know it’s not just about the missed action. It’s about the feeling that your trust didn’t matter.

A promise is like a bridge between two people. You step onto it with faith, believing the other person will hold their side. When they let go, you don’t just fall you question whether you should ever step on such a bridge again.

Broken promises teach us to harden our hearts. They whisper to us, “Don’t rely on anyone. Don’t believe too easily. Don’t expect too much.”

And while that mindset can protect us, it also makes the world feel lonelier.

Human Nature and Expectations

This is the reality of human nature: most people are focused on their own struggles, their own lives, their own battles. They don’t have the capacity to carry ours consistently.

It’s not always that they don’t care, it’s that they care about themselves more. And expecting otherwise sets us up for pain.

That’s why one of life’s greatest lessons is this:

If someone ever promised you something, don't try to leave what you already have and expecting more from them, Protect what you already have  - This is from me personaly take this quote.

If they come through, be grateful. If they don’t, stay grounded. Either way, your emotional state should not be chained to their words.

Learning to Rely Differently

Today, when I hung up the phone, I felt that sting in my chest. That frustration of “Why did I even believe them in the first place?”

But then I reminded myself of something deeper:

• People will always be limited.
• People will always fail sometimes.
• But God never fails.

The moment you shift your reliance from people to God, you start to feel free. Because while humans break promises, God fulfills His. Always.

And when you start relying on yourself your discipline, your effort, your persistence instead of waiting on someone else’s word, you stop giving them power over your emotions.

That’s the beginning of emotional freedom.

Practical Ways to Protect Your Peace

So, how do you live in a world full of empty promises without becoming bitter? Here are a few lessons I’m carving into my own heart:

1. Lower your expectations of people. Expect less, appreciate more. That way, every kept promise feels like a blessing, not an entitlement.
2. Rely on yourself first. Don’t build your plans on other people’s words. Build them on your own actions.
3. Separate words from actions. Believe what you see, not just what you hear. A promise means nothing until it’s delivered.
4. Value the rare, genuine ones. Every once in a while, you’ll meet someone who actually keeps their word. Treasure those people they’re rare.
5. Put ultimate trust in God. When you stop expecting people to carry you, and you trust Allah to guide your steps, you’ll find a peace that no broken promise can steal.

A New Way of Living

From today onwards, I’ve decided something:

• I’ll stop giving people the power to control my peace.
• I’ll treat promises as possibilities, not guarantees.
• I’ll keep my own word stronger than ever, because I know how it feels when someone else breaks theirs.
• And most importantly, I’ll build my foundation on myself and my Creator, not on people who are just as fragile as me. Because the truth is this: the less you rely on others, the freer you become.

Conclusion for this topic today

People will promise you the world and give you nothing. They’ll swear they’ll show up, then disappear. They’ll raise your hopes, then drop them without a second thought.

But life becomes easier when you stop clinging to their words. When you see promises as fragile and people as human.

So here’s my advice to anyone reading this:

• Trust lightly.
• Depend wisely.
• Love openly, but don’t expect perfectly.

Because freedom comes when you realize this: actions matter more than words, and God’s word is the only one that never fails.

People may break their promises, but you don’t have to break your peace.

Peace guys.
Written By Mohamed Sinani.